How many sexual problems are suffering adolescents
News Background Before the Fifth National Cultural Festival was held in Guangzhou, the issue of adolescent sex education became a focus of attention.
The survey showed that 76% of male middle school students in Guangzhou acquired sexual knowledge from various cultural media, only 2 of them.
7% comes from school curricula, 70% of female middle school students’ sexual knowledge comes from various cultural media, 3.
8% come from school curricula.
Experts revealed that the overall sexual maturity of boys and girls is earlier than 20 years ago?
Three years, at the same time, internal sex education, whether it is school education or family education, is obviously lagging behind.
Such conflicts lead to adolescents’ lack of understanding of sexual knowledge, sexual ignorance or incorrect sexual knowledge, or incorrect sexual knowledge learned through improper channels, resulting in a variety of sexual psychological disorders.
Geng Wenxiu, a professor of psychology at East China Normal University and an expert in sexual psychology, believes that adolescents are not strong in self-control and discrimination, and have just started to face sexual problems. Without scientific guidance, they can easily fall into misunderstandings and even affect their lives.
Case one: Masturbation Haoyu is 15 years old this year. He usually finds nothing abnormal. A father accidentally bumped into him for masturbation. It reminded him that he often closed the door recently. There were yellow spots on the sleeping sheets. The father thought his problem was very serious.Seriously, criticizing him, he promised to quit this “bad habit”, but the number of masturbations instead changed from twice a week to at least once a day. He is now increasingly reluctant to speak, often blaming himself for having no control.
Misunderstanding adolescents: Masturbation is a bad thing. I think about sex at a young age. It is a low-minded person. I am a bad person. I am sorry for my parents. I am not prosperous. I cannot control myself. I hate myself and despise myself.
Parents: Children do not learn masturbation well, disappointing parents and getting angry; repeated teaching is incurable; this is the case for bad children.
The truth is that adolescence is the most important stage in the growth and development of adolescents. All organ systems develop rapidly, and physical and psychological changes occur sharply. Especially, they are sensitive to various problems arising from the development of sexual organs and sexual psychological development, such as nocturnal emission, menstruation,Masturbation etc.
Masturbation is a natural product of sexual physiological development and sexual psychological development. It is a normal masturbation behavior. Generally speaking, masturbation itself is not a special harm, nor will it affect future sexual life and reproduction.
But if masturbation is too much, it will aggravate the youth to indulge in it and not concentrate on their studies.
Experts advise parents to do: Do not punish and scold the child, do not forcibly prohibit, otherwise it will easily cause the child to worry and panic, and form timidity, sensitivity, inferiority or loneliness. This may make the child seek comfort from masturbation, so thatThe number of masturbations is more repeated.
When the child is found to have the habit of masturbation, parents are best not to break it, but to find ways to divert the child’s attention.
Pay attention to cultivate children’s sexual hygiene habits. Whether it is boys or girls, wash the external genitals every night before going to bed to keep the external genitals clean and hygienic to prevent diseases.
What young people should do: do n’t humble themselves, do n’t feel sullen, and understand masturbation correctly; do n’t wear bodysuits, bodysuits can easily stimulate the perineum or penis to induce masturbation; avoid contact with sexually irritating newspapers, magazines, pictures,Web pages, etc. to reduce sexual stimuli; Do not eat irritating food, do not overeat at dinner; do appropriate exercise before going to bed, go to bed as soon as possible after going to bed, so as not to fall asleep and point to masturbation, listen to music when you ca n’t sleep, and want to pay attention to yourselfDo n’t cover quilts that are too warm or too warm; take part in re-activities more often to enrich your time schedule and divert your attention to sex; if you have more masturbation habits, gradually reduce the frequency of masturbation, do n’t stop, as the saying goes: “Hurry but not reach”.
Case two: After entering the high school, the same-sex attachment Jinyi had a very good relationship with a female classmate she knew in junior high school. The two often studied together, ate, and over time, the classmates said they were gay.
Others talked too much, and she began to wonder if she was really homosexual. She was very scared, but she didn’t dare to tell her parents.
Ah Qian is in the second year of high school. He is taking a key high school exam. He has lived in school since the first year of high school. Akun in the same room not only has a good study, but also excels in all aspects. Ah Qian has a good relationship with him.
A few days after the start of this semester, Akun didn’t come to class because of something at home. He suddenly felt very uncomfortable, and couldn’t even sleep at night. He always thought about Akun, just like the separation of lovers in the movie.As much as I miss each other, Ah Qian feels a little scared about this feeling of herself, worrying about whether she is gay.
Misunderstanding adolescents: They often stay together with same-sex classmates and friends. They often pay attention to same-sex classmates and friends. They often like to see photos of same-sex stars. Girls do n’t like to dress up, eat snacks, speak gossip, and coquetry.Do not like the hobby of boys such as sports, these are homosexual.
Homosexuality is humiliating and humiliated.
Parents: The child plays with a same-sex partner every day, and hugs or plays with each other’s genitals. This is homosexuality. This is an extraordinary thing, which leads to overwhelming or severe criticism of the child.
Facts Before the age of 18, adolescents’ sexual orientation was in a cyclical period, and they all liked the same sex.
Therefore, it is normal for middle school students to have same-sex attachment, and most of them are not true “homosexual”, but a kind of deformation and release after the vigorous sexual and physiological activities during the growth and development period are suppressed.
At this stage, many boys and girls exhibit sexual psychology or behaviors that deviate from their own gender. This may be in the process of growth. The heart’s spontaneous love cannot be achieved in the interaction with the opposite sex, so it is with a good friend of the same sex.Imitating and role-playing in friendship, or because of poor independent ability, lead to heavier, poor interpersonal communication ability, transforming same-sex partners to psychologically over-reliance, thus bringing the illusion of homosexuality to themselves.
If parents suppress their children’s same-sex relationships too much, and the child’s normal emotional release cannot be satisfied, it is easy to find same-sex to release.
Experts advise parents to do: Do n’t ignore the opportunity for their children to interact with the opposite sex, because only in these interactions can they complete their identity of gender roles and possible changes in sex. Otherwise, the child is likely to think aboutThe desire for heterosexual interaction is placed on the same sex, imitating the relationship between the opposite sex for role play.
Help children overcome their inferiority complex in front of same-sex classmates.
Encourage them to see themselves from more perspectives, evaluate themselves, build self-confidence, and let them identify with their gender role.
If you find your child is homosexual, if you only like to be with the same sex, and have a clear aversion to the opposite sex, do n’t arbitrarily stop or become angry. The child is in pain at this moment, and they need each other most.Caring, guiding, and rude intervention will only make your child distrust you and stay away from you.
Parents need to provide their children with a safe space and more about how they feel.
What young people need to do: consciously exercise their independence, strengthen interaction with the opposite sex, and work hard to overcome the habit of often using the same sex to stimulate their sexual excitement.